The Holidays

The Holidays can be a time of excitement, bustle and joy. However, for many, it is also a reminder of loss, high expectations and perceived personal failures.

As I have talked to people, I find this is quite common. I feel it is important to understand what we can do to enjoy the holidays, and beyond -imperfect and stressful, as they may be.

I want to deal with my own depression in a way that will help others, too. This last year has been very difficult -especially finding the right treatment, while dealing with everyday life. I titled my blog "Arms Outstretched" as a nod to my own difficulty in reaching out for help. When I start spiraling down into depression, I withdraw. This response contributes to the feeling of emptiness. I am blessed to have family and friends who are patient with me, and understand the major depressive disorder is real.

Recently, I went into a health clinic and was treated by a wonderful nurse practitioner. She asked all the right questions, said all the right things. I knew she understood this illness on a personal level because she knew what to say, and how to say the words that gave me comfort. Also, she asked me: Do you hug? I answered immediately: Yes. That hug helped punctuate a new relationship of trust -a lifeline to hope.

Words for those who are dealing with depression: Remember that depression is a TEMPORARY situation. You CAN have joy.

In closing, please know that if you feel like harming yourself, there is a suicide hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE(1-800-784-2433). Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. There IS help, and you are not alone.

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html